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Ever wondered how to SPOT an avoidant early on, or what a securely attached partner actually looks like?
Dating can feel like a minefield when you have an anxious attachment, right? đź§
You meet someone, start to get attached, and only later realize they’re emotionally unavailable. They pull away. You overthink.
Suddenly, you’re stuck in the same anxious spiral, replaying the same patterns again and again.Â
In this episode, I’m showing you how to spot avoidant tendencies early, understand attachment patterns, and recognize what a secure, emotionally available partner actually looks like.
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Because the goal isn’t to judge... it’s to create awareness, so you stop chasing mixed signals, stop overextending emotionally, and start investing in the people who actually make you feel calm, seen, and safe. 🖤✨
By the end of this episode, you’ll know:
How anxious and avoidant patterns secretly show up in early dating
Why you keep feeling pulled into the same exhausting cycles
How to spot secure energy so you can attract healthier connections
Ways to protect your nervous system and emotional wellbeing while dating
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đź–¤ ON SALE: How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse
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🖤 ON SALE: How to STOP needing so much reassurance via text (because safety comes from within, and you chasing or not settling boundary is the thing that give you anxiety, NOT a delayed text.)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety
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Free Quiz: Find your top 2 Relationship needs (before your subconscious will sabotage you by meeting it in unhealthy ways, through like overthinking, clinging too hard to chasing)
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/needs
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CHAPTERS:
00:00 Understanding Attachment Styles in Dating
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đź–¤ FREE Attachment LIBRARY
(worksheets, prompts, quizzes and more)
https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach
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đź–¤ Attachment Style QUIZÂ
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
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DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
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Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.
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By Jula - The Anxious To Secure Coach3.7
33 ratings
Ever wondered how to SPOT an avoidant early on, or what a securely attached partner actually looks like?
Dating can feel like a minefield when you have an anxious attachment, right? đź§
You meet someone, start to get attached, and only later realize they’re emotionally unavailable. They pull away. You overthink.
Suddenly, you’re stuck in the same anxious spiral, replaying the same patterns again and again.Â
In this episode, I’m showing you how to spot avoidant tendencies early, understand attachment patterns, and recognize what a secure, emotionally available partner actually looks like.
Â
Because the goal isn’t to judge... it’s to create awareness, so you stop chasing mixed signals, stop overextending emotionally, and start investing in the people who actually make you feel calm, seen, and safe. 🖤✨
By the end of this episode, you’ll know:
How anxious and avoidant patterns secretly show up in early dating
Why you keep feeling pulled into the same exhausting cycles
How to spot secure energy so you can attract healthier connections
Ways to protect your nervous system and emotional wellbeing while dating
Â
đź–¤ ON SALE: How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse
Â
🖤 ON SALE: How to STOP needing so much reassurance via text (because safety comes from within, and you chasing or not settling boundary is the thing that give you anxiety, NOT a delayed text.)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety
Â
Free Quiz: Find your top 2 Relationship needs (before your subconscious will sabotage you by meeting it in unhealthy ways, through like overthinking, clinging too hard to chasing)
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/needs
Â
CHAPTERS:
00:00 Understanding Attachment Styles in Dating
Â
đź–¤ FREE Attachment LIBRARY
(worksheets, prompts, quizzes and more)
https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach
Â
đź–¤ Attachment Style QUIZÂ
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
Â
DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
Â
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.
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