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“5 Phrases I BANNED from My Vocabulary While Healing Anxious Attachment 🧠✨ (And What I Say Instead Now as a Secure Partner)”

Ever said “He makes me feel anxious” or “They NEVER show up for me”?

But once I started healing my anxious attachment, I realized something BIG:

This episode is, if you’re ready to:

These 5 common phrases might seem small...

You’ll walk away with:

Let’s give your nervous system a reset.... one sentence at a time 

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CHAPTERS:

00:00 Introduction why Words matter in your Relationship

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

Free Attachment Style Quiz:

https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz

If you struggle with anxiety in relationships...

This episode is for you 🖤

You’ll learn a simple, science-backed 3-step formula to process emotions in a healthy way.. in just 90 seconds. YES, really. ⏱

Yes, this is the process how to actually SIT with your feelings, how to allow them, do a body scan so you can be in control of your emotions, and become more resilient.

This is the method I teach all my anxious attachment clients to help them feel calmer, more in control, and SAFER in their own body... without pushing feelings away, texting for reassurance, or blowing up at their partner.

 Inside this episode:

This isn’t toxic positivity.

📍 CHAPTERS:

00:00 The Importance of Processing Emotions and Sitting with the Feeling

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Book a free call to see if you like to work with me.

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P.S.

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

Have you ever thought…

“I know my partner loves me, so why do I still spiral over a delayed text?”

“Why does my body feel like it’s under attack - even when nothing’s wrong?”

Or why can't I feel calm when Im telling myself to calm down?

In this episode, I’m sharing something that changed the way I see my own anxiety..and my body. 

The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk helped me finally connect the dots between my silent migraines, my chronic overthinking in relationships, and the deep survival patterns wired into my nervous system.

I’ll share:

Because if you’ve ever:

Then this episode will be for you!

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CHAPTERS:

00:00 Introduction to Healing Anxious Attachment

I remember one night… I was crying. Not loudly.

I didn’t need him to fix it.

But instead.. I felt invisible.

That moment? It stuck with me.

If you’ve ever felt that ache 

Today on the Anxious Secure Podcast, I’m unpacking one of the most triggering, magnetic, and misunderstood dynamics in love: the anxious-avoidant relationship.

We’re diving into:

Can an anxious-avoidant relationship really work?

Why your partner pulling away hurts way more than it “should”

How your nervous system is reliving childhood experiences — not just reacting to today

Why the avoidant pulls back when you need closeness most

How your needs might feel threatening to someone who never learned emotional intimacy

And what happens when YOU stop taking their distance as proof that you’re too much

Have you ever felt that moment... needing comfort and getting silence instead?

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🎯 Mini-Courses

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CHAPTERS:

00:00 Understanding Anxious-Avoidant Dynamics

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

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I used to think healing anxious attachment would take YEARS.

But what if I told you it can actually happen faster?

In this episode, I’m sharing the exact method I used to go from crying in parks 🌧 to becoming secure, empowered, and finally SAFE in my own body and relationships.

It didn’t happen by luck.

🖤 You’ll hear the behind-the-scenes of my healing process - from spirals and shutdowns… to building confidence, emotional safety, and actual freedom in love.

And I’ll answer the BIG questions I get asked all the time:

This is your reminder:

You don’t need to fix yourself to be loved.

Let’s dive in 🖤

CHAPTERS:

00:00 Anxious Attachment Q+A PART 2

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

🖤   3min FREE Attachment Style QUIZ:

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I once threw a remote across the room. 😮‍💨

Back then, I didn’t know how to handle conflict. I didn’t know how to self-soothe.

I didn’t know that what was happening in my nervous system wasn’t “crazy,” it was ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT running the show.

In this super vulnerable episode, I take you deep inside my relationship journey… the intense arguments, the emotional shutdowns, and the moment I was literally crying in the grass at a London park thinking, “we can’t keep doing this… but breaking up also feels impossible.”

I also share how discovering attachment theory changed everything — my patterns, my health, my thoughts, and eventually, my career. This is not just about becoming secure with a partner. It’s about becoming secure within yourself 🖤

In this episode, I share:

This episode is your reminder that you’re not alone.

CHAPTERS:

00:00 Introduction to Jula's Journey to Being an Anxious Attachment Relationship Coach

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

If you’re anxiously attached and feel like you’re RUINING every good relationship... this episode might just be your wake-up call 

🖤 Do you chase closeness when your partner pulls away?

You're not crazy. You're not too much.

In this episode, I’m sharing:

Here’s a story I’ve never shared like this before…

Back when I lived in London, I had this one tiny habit that changed everything…

Why?

That’s how healing starts.

Listen to today’s episode of the anxious to secure podcast

if you're tired of feeling like you're “too much” or like you always have to work for love.

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CHAPTERS:

00:00 Are you doing THIS wrong too?? UPS...

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

Are you with someone GOOD…but you can’t stop overthinking, spiraling, or self-sabotaging?

In this video, I’ll walk you through 4 simple but powerful steps to stop overthinking, feel calmer in love, and actually enjoy a GOOD relationship (without pushing them away 💛)

🖤 How to break the reassurance loop

🎙 Real talk. No fluff. No shame…

00:00 Today's Q+A: Spiraling when I don't hear back even though she reassures me.

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Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

Here are Dopamine Menu Ideas That ACTUALLY Work For Anxious Attachment ✨💛

Your dopamine menu is EVERYTHING if you have an anxious attachment style 

Why?

Even that urge to stalk your ex online? 👀✨ It starts to fade.

In this episode of Anxious to Secure, Jula breaks down how to build your OWN ✨slow dopamine menu✨ to help you feel more SECURE from the inside out 🛟💛

If you’ve ever felt glued to your phone waiting for a reply...

So what’s a dopamine menu anyway?

But here’s what no one is talking about 

This episode dives into:

You’ll learn how to swap fast dopamine spikes (like texting, scrolling, or binging) for small, SAFE, meaningful moments that actually calm your system 🧘🏼‍♀️📓

You’ll walk away with a 3-part dopamine menu you can start using TODAY 

From:

This isn’t just a cute Pinterest trend —

Perfect for anyone who:

Let’s rewrite the way your brain experiences LOVE, connection, and calm 

CHAPTERS:

00:00 What is the Dopamine Menu trend?

02:01 QUICK dopamine - aka fast and dirty dopamine

05:01 Slow dopamine - aka clean, real dopamine

08:09 Why dopamine MATTERS for anxious attachment

09:33 Why YOU need a dopamine menu for anxious attachment - The REAL tiny moments

12:05 Your 3 Course Anxious Attachment Dopamine Menu

14:20 Your Dopamine Starter Menu

18:26 MAIN Dopamine Course Menu

24:00 Your Dessert Dopamine Menu

27:37 Remember

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DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

Are you stuck on the anxious‑avoidant relationship rollercoaster?

Feeling like every conversation ends in confusion, distance, or chasing?

In this episode of the Anxious to Secure podcast, you'll learn how to fix an Anxious‑Avoidant Relationship in 15 Steps.

I’m breaking down a powerful 15‑step pyramid framework from the five BIGGEST mistakes that keep you stuck, all the way up to the ONE core change that transforms your connection. 

Here’s what I’m walking you through in this episode:

📍 A quick story of me and my avoidant partner in a tiny London flat… both of us triggered, stuck in our patterns ... and what finally helped things shift.

📍 The 5 emotional blocks that keep you stuck at the bottom... like believing this is just who I am or pretending you don’t care (when you definitely do).

📍 The 4 things that feel like healing but kinda... aren’t... like trying to be perfect, holding it all in, rehearsing the “right” words, or testing if they care.

📍 The 3 tools that help, but don’t fully move the needle... like leaning on secure friends, calming your nervous system, or setting boundaries (but still feeling anxious inside).

📍 The 2 shifts that actually change your attachment... learning to trust yourself and rewiring those sneaky beliefs like I have to be chill or I’ll be too much.

📍 And the ONE thing at the top that changes everything... stepping into your secure self (not just acting it, actually becoming it).

This episode is perfect for anxious‑avoidant partners ready to:

Stop overthinking, people‑pleasing, chasing

Rewire your nervous system and your beliefs

Build emotional self‑trust and real boundaries

Finally move from anxious attachment to secure love 

 Expect curiosity‑sparking questions, a touch of real‑life storytelling, and actionable steps you can start using today.

🖤  Attachment LIBRARY:

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🖤  1:1 Support + Courses:

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🖤   3min FREE Attachment Style QUIZ:

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♥️  YOUTUBE:

 (4 ways How to DETACH emotionally)

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WLi57Sgd3nE&t=1567s

🚩Avoidant OR Just Not Into You? 🚩How do you know if an Avoidant likes You

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XhIX4kMBYrU&t=1202s&list=PLkaamihHgLaG0GI37seXdVADSfx8hv-La

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.