September 23, 2025

84: Gilmore Girls Attachment Styles EXPLAINED *Part 02 (Rory, Dean, Jess, Tristan, Logan)

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Gilmore Girls Attachment Style Breakdown (Part 2): Rory & Her Relationships

Welcome back to part two of the Gilmore Girls Attachment Style Breakdown! Today we’re diving deep into Rory’s world—her relationships, dating patterns, and why she’s attracted to certain types of people like Dean, Jess, Logan, and even Tristan.

If you haven’t watched part one yet,

I recommend starting there to understand the foundation of the characters’ attachment styles, including Lorelai, Luke, Christopher, Emily, and Richard

In this episode, we explore:

✨ Rory’s anxious attachment style with disorganized edges

✨ How her upbringing shaped her relationship patterns

✨ Why she chases unavailable partners and idolizes her boyfriends

✨ The push-and-pull dynamic with Dean, Jess, Logan, and Tristan

✨ How her self-worth ties to achievement, school, and love

✨ The patterns that make her relationships challenging

✨ My #1 tip for Rory (and anyone with anxious tendencies) to finally feel secure in love

We also break down:

💛 Dean – anxious attachment, craving closeness but over-investing emotionally

💚 Jess – disorganized tendencies, rebellious and protective, struggles with vulnerability

💙 Tristan – classic avoidant, keeps emotional distance, immature and testing Rory

💜 Logan – avoidant with some disorganized traits, charming but emotionally inconsistent

If you’re anxious in love like Rory,

the real shift happens when you build security within yourself first.

When you stop chasing emotional red flags, you attract reliable, loving partners and create healthier dynamics in all areas of your life.

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Who’s your favorite Rory boyfriend? And do you relate to Rory’s anxious tendencies in love?

Thanks for watching and doing the work with me! Happy autumn and remember, change in your relationships starts with you—thought by thought, action by action.

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CHAPTERS:

00:00 Intro to Gilmore Girls Attachments Styles

01:28 Rory's Attachment Style

11:46 Dean's Attachment Style

20:30 Jess Mariano's Attachment Style

25:24 Tristan's Attachment Style

30:56 Logan Huntzberger's Attachment Style

36:49 My BIGGEST relationship Advice for RORY

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.

This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

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