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It only takes eight seconds⊠or does it? â°Â
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Remember scrolling Instagram, seeing that reel, and thinking,
âWhy isnât he replying? Itâs just eight seconds!â
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Thatâs exactly how anxious attachment tricks us making us chase validation, obsess over texts, and feel like every delayed reply is rejection.
In this episode, I unpack why this âeight-second trapâ fuels anxiety, overthinking, and the addictive chase cycle. I share why your emotional safety doesnât depend on anyone else, how to stop texting obsessively, and the step-by-step tools I use (and teach clients) to calm your brain and feel secure on your own.
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We talk real examples: heart racing when theyâre âtyping,â overanalyzing likes, messages, and stories, and feeling too much in love or friendship.
I also share practical actionsâfrom journaling out your thoughts, setting boundaries for yourself, spotting patterns without personalizing, and walking away from crumbsâto reclaim your peace and confidence.
If youâve ever felt anxious waiting for a text, overanalyzed replies, or let someone else control your emotions, this episode is your guide to healing your anxious attachment, trusting yourself, and stopping the chase.
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ON SALE (27 euros only)
Stop obsessing over Text in 21 days or less - Course:
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety
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CHAPTERS:
00:00 The Eight Second Dilemma
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Want more support?
â Monthly Text + Talk Support đČ đ€
(daily coaching, check-ins + reassurance and becoming secure, text by text, commitment free support, cancel any month)
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â Monthly Coaching Calls đđ€
(2x calls a month or unlimited calls + text support to help you become secure)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/oneononecoachingsubscription
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â SHOP + FREE RESOURCES
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Attachment Style QUIZÂ â Take the 3-min quiz to be 100% sure you're Anxiously Attached: 3 MIN QUIZ
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How to Stop OVERTHINKINGđ« đYour Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner)
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DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.
This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
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Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.
By Jula - The Anxious To Secure Coach3.5
22 ratings
Grab theđ± â"He doesn't reply" Flow Chart (free):
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/flow
Â
It only takes eight seconds⊠or does it? â°Â
Â
Remember scrolling Instagram, seeing that reel, and thinking,
âWhy isnât he replying? Itâs just eight seconds!â
Â
Thatâs exactly how anxious attachment tricks us making us chase validation, obsess over texts, and feel like every delayed reply is rejection.
In this episode, I unpack why this âeight-second trapâ fuels anxiety, overthinking, and the addictive chase cycle. I share why your emotional safety doesnât depend on anyone else, how to stop texting obsessively, and the step-by-step tools I use (and teach clients) to calm your brain and feel secure on your own.
Â
We talk real examples: heart racing when theyâre âtyping,â overanalyzing likes, messages, and stories, and feeling too much in love or friendship.
I also share practical actionsâfrom journaling out your thoughts, setting boundaries for yourself, spotting patterns without personalizing, and walking away from crumbsâto reclaim your peace and confidence.
If youâve ever felt anxious waiting for a text, overanalyzed replies, or let someone else control your emotions, this episode is your guide to healing your anxious attachment, trusting yourself, and stopping the chase.
Â
ON SALE (27 euros only)
Stop obsessing over Text in 21 days or less - Course:
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety
Â
Â
CHAPTERS:
00:00 The Eight Second Dilemma
Â
Want more support?
â Monthly Text + Talk Support đČ đ€
(daily coaching, check-ins + reassurance and becoming secure, text by text, commitment free support, cancel any month)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textandtalk
Â
â Monthly Coaching Calls đđ€
(2x calls a month or unlimited calls + text support to help you become secure)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/oneononecoachingsubscription
Â
â SHOP + FREE RESOURCES
https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach/shop
Â
Â
Attachment Style QUIZÂ â Take the 3-min quiz to be 100% sure you're Anxiously Attached: 3 MIN QUIZ
Â
How to Stop OVERTHINKINGđ« đYour Relationship in 4 Steps (With Your Avoidant Partner)
Â
đïžđ± â"He doesn't reply"Â Flow Chart (free):
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/flow
Â
DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.
This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
Â
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

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