Choosing to Stay

#105 How to Stop Arguing with Your Spouse and Break Unhealthy Communication Patterns After Infidelity


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In this episode of Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, we dive deep into one of the most challenging aspects of healing after betrayal: breaking the cycle of unhealthy communication patterns. Infidelity can fracture not only trust but the way we communicate with our partners, often leading to constant arguments, defensiveness, and a lack of resolution. But it’s possible to step out of these destructive cycles and create healthier, more productive conversations that promote healing, understanding, and trust. Join us as we explore practical strategies and tools to stop arguing and start communicating in ways that bring both partners closer together. We’ll talk about emotional reactivity, the power of active listening, setting boundaries, fostering vulnerability, and when to seek professional help.

In This Episode You’ll Learn:

  • How infidelity impacts communication and why arguments often escalate in unhealthy ways
  • The importance of understanding emotional triggers to break the cycle of blame and defensiveness
  • How to use active listening to truly hear your partner and reduce conflict
  • Practical steps to set ground rules for healthier communication in your relationship
  • The role of vulnerability in healing, and how to create a safe space to express feelings
  • How to apologize and forgive in a way that fosters trust and closeness
  • Why seeking professional help might be necessary for breaking old communication patterns
  • The power of celebrating small wins in rebuilding communication and trust over time


Thank you for tuning in!

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali Roderick

Certified Relational Recovery Coach

TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-C

Stephanie Hamby

Certified Relational Recovery Coach

MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C

We look forward to journeying with you!


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