The Anxious To Secure PODCAST

105: MAIN character energy 👸🏻👀for anxious attachment: 12 steps to feeling secure in 2026

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✨ Imagine you’re done waiting for someone else to decide your mood, your worth, or your story. You’re ready to step fully into Main Character Energy and lead your life with confidence, joy, and magic 🦄

In this episode, we break down how anxious attachment quietly pulls you into side-character mode

and exactly how to flip the script

💛 Learn practical, everyday ways to own your energy, your choices, and your story...so you can feel powerful, magnetic, and fully YOU 🌙

 

🌟 What you’ll discover in this episode:

  • Why your partner is just a chapter, not the whole book ✨

  • How to make tiny everyday actions feel cinematic and magical

  • 13 practical rules to channel Main Character Energy immediately đź’Ž

  • How to shift from anxious attachment to a secure, confident vibe

  • Real-life examples and micro-moments to claim your power today

     

    Think of your life like a movie 🎬 You’re the lead. You decide the plot. You control the energy. Not your partner. Not your past. Not anyone else 🦄

    If you’re ready to stop reacting, stop shrinking, and show up fully as the main character of your life, this episode is your blueprint 🌙✨

     

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    CHAPTERS:

    00:00 Understanding Anxious Attachment and Main Character Energy

    01:35 Benefits of not being the side Character in your Story for your Anxious Attachment
    03:16 Myth: "Main Character only works for Influencer or if you have time""
    06:36 Questions to Channel your MAIN CHARACTER energy
    07:01 Secure Attachment And Main Character Energy
    08:12 13 Practical Steps to Main Character Energy
    08:36 Rule 01: Your partner is a chapter, not the entire book
    09:10 Rule 02. Choose one signature thing.
    09:50 Rule 03. Turn a boring household task into a movie scene.
    10:53 Rule 04. Your inner voice is the “voiceover” of your movie
    11:39 Rule 05. You are both actor and writer of your life
    12:44 Rule 06. Give yourself a soundtrack
    14:31 Rule 07. Romanticize the missing
    15:56 Rule 08. Link your mood to a character instead of a flaw.
    16:46 Rule 09. Add one cozy upgrade.
    18:27 Rule 10. Walk like someone is watching your
    19:08 Rule 11. Ask: “What would people on the couch SCREAM at you?"
    20:26 Rule 12. Pause before reacting - see it like a chapter.
    21:11 Key takeaways to remember

     

     

     

     

    DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor.

    This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.

    This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

     

    Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

     

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