Mother Mayhem: For Daughters of Narcissistic or Emotionally Limited Mothers

107. What If I See Her? Navigating Hypervigilance After Going No Contact with a Narcissistic Mother


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What happens when you’ve gone no contact with your narcissistic mother… but your body still doesn’t feel safe?

This week, we hear from a daughter who has done all the right things. She’s named the abuse, set boundaries, gone to therapy, built a support network… and yet she still lives in fear of accidentally running into her mother.

Together, we explore what it means to feel stuck in trauma responses even after estrangement, and how daughters of narcissistic or emotionally limited mothers can begin to trust their bodies, honor their fear, and create protection without self-abandonment.

Why going no contact doesn’t always mean your nervous system feels safe

  • The difference between trauma brain and trauma wisdom

  • What to do if you run into your narcissistic parent in public

  • How to make a realistic safety plan without shame

  • The cost of avoidance—and how to choose it consciously

  • Why messy, imperfect reactions are actually protection

  • You’ve gone low or no contact and still feel like your mother has a hold on you

  • You’re a high-functioning daughter who feels like you “should be over it”

  • You’re tired of being hypervigilant, but scared to let your guard down

  • You’ve ever walked through a store scanning the aisles—just in case

  • You want support that honors your head work and your heart work


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    Mother Mayhem: For Daughters of Narcissistic or Emotionally Limited MothersBy Heather Gray, LICSW

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