December 18, 2025

109: 10 TRUTHS That Make Someone Chase You (and stop obsessing over them)

28 minutes

If you’re stuck chasing crumbs… overthinking every text… or getting attached to guys who give the BARE minimum — this episode is your wake-up call.

I’m breaking down why your anxious attachment makes you want the most unavailable guy… why your brain obsesses over mixed signals… and why you keep replaying his “hey” like it’s a love letter.

You’ll learn the 10 TRUTHS that flip the script — the ones that make HIM chase YOU.

Not by playing games… but by becoming SECURE, magnetic, grounded, and done with the old patterns that kept you stuck. 📓🖤

Inside this episode you’ll get:

★ why chasing makes him pull away

★ why scarcity makes you crave him

★ why your brain confuses rejection with danger

★ why you ignore the guy who actually likes you

★ why obsession kicks in when your body feels abandonment coming

★ and how to detach in a way that makes you feel confident, not cold ✨

By the end, you’ll know exactly how to stop overgiving, stop spiraling, stop proving yourself… and finally let HIM step up.

CHAPTER

00:00 Introduction to Transformative Truths

01:52 1. Whatever is being CHASED… RUNS

03:15 2. The more UNAVAILABLE he is… the more your brain craves him

04:59 3. Rejection hits the brain like actual PAIN ⛈️

05:59 4. When 19 adore you and 1 ignores you… your brain locks onto the ONE

08:07 5. When you chase, he relaxes. When you relax, he CHASES

15:15 6. Obsession kicks in when your body thinks you’re about to be ABANDONED

20:42 7. If he can PREDICT you… he stops pursuing

22:46 8. Your fantasy version of him does 95% of the chasing

25:01 Your Homework - 3 easy practical steps to STOP obsessing over HIM

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DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor.

This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.

This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

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By Jula - The Anxious To Secure Coach

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