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113: YOUR trust issues will make HIM break your trust (Anxious-Avoidant Trust Cycle)


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Your Trust Issues Will Make Him Break Your Trust in your anxious-avoidant relationship

Have you ever thought:

  • “I trust my boyfriend when he’s done nothing wrong… so why am I still anxious?”

  • “Why do I always worry my partner might leave me?”

  • “Why do trust issues show up even in healthy relationships?”

     

    This episode is for women with trust issues, relationship anxiety, and fear of abandonment who feel on edge even when nothing bad is happening.

    If you’ve been the “chill” woman on the outside while secretly scanning for danger on the inside… re-reading texts, checking tone, bracing for pain...you’re not broken. Your brain is running a self-fulfilling prophecy. 🌀

     

    We’ll break down:

    • How trust issues form (even when men haven’t actually betrayed you)

    • Why anxiety behaviors push secure men away and activate avoidant ones

    • How over-checking, reassurance-seeking, and control loops reinforce the belief “men can’t be trusted”

    • Why your nervous system is protecting you... and how that protection turns into self-sabotage

      You’ll learn how to rebuild trust in yourself, regulate your nervous system, and shift out of hypervigilance.. so love stops feeling like a threat and starts feeling safe again. 

       

       

      ⏰ Chapters

      00:00 Why trust issues create self-fulfilling prophecies

      02:14 Dating stage: trust issues in the talking phase
      06:48 How anxiety behaviors push good men away
      11:02 Relationship stage: overthinking, jealousy, reassurance loops
      15:40 Why avoidant partners are drawn to anxious patterns
      19:30 The psychology behind “I trust him but still feel unsafe”
      23:10 The real shift: rebuilding trust in yourself
      27:05 4 mini steps to rewire trust
      31:40 What changes when trust heals

       

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      🖤 About me

      I’m Jula, an attachment style coach.
      I help women heal trust issues, stop chasing, and build secure love ✨

       

      💌 Work with me

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      DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor.

      This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions.

      This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

       

      Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

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