After the Affair

116. Religion and Betrayal: A Match made in Hell


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Religion often has a lot to say about infidelity: forgive, stay, move on. But what if these teachings complicate, rather than heal, the emotional devastation of betrayal?


In this episode, Luke explores the intersection of faith and infidelity, unpacking the pressures placed on both the betrayed and the unfaithful partner.

We’ll discuss:

  • How religious expectations can shape the healing journey, for better or worse.
  • The cultural and societal variations in how infidelity is perceived and judged.
  • The stigma faced by the unfaithful partner and whether shame helps or hinders growth.
  • The importance of finding a path to healing that aligns with your values while honouring your emotional truth.
  • Whether you’re navigating the expectations of your faith or questioning the role of religion in your recovery, this episode is for you. It’s not about judgment; it’s about understanding and finding a way forward.

    Key Takeaways:

    • Religion can offer comfort, but it can also create pressure to forgive and stay in ways that might not align with personal healing.
    • Cultural and religious norms around infidelity are not universal, there is no single “rulebook” for betrayal.
    • Both betrayed and unfaithful partners deserve space to process, heal, and grow without being reduced to their worst moments.
    • Join the Conversation:

      What role has your faith played in your healing journey after infidelity?

      Connect with Luke:

      • Website: www.lifecoachluke.com
      • Instagram: @mylifecoachluke
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