After the Affair

117. Dealing With The Online Comments Section After Infidelity


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The internet can feel like a war zone when you’re looking for answers after betrayal. Whether you’re the betrayed partner or the unfaithful one, scrolling through the comment section can quickly amplify your fears, doubts, and pain. But here’s the truth: those comments don’t define you. They reflect someone else’s pain, biases, and experiences, not your reality.

In this episode, we explore:

  • Why we’re drawn to online comments when we’re hurting.
  • How confirmation bias makes the worst comments hit us hardest.
  • Why the comment section is like a broken mirror, distorting your reflection.
  • How to protect your emotional and mental health by filtering out harmful noise.
  • Practical ways to reclaim control and stay grounded in your truth.
  • If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed, judged, or shattered by what strangers have said online, this episode will help you step back, tune out the noise, and refocus on your healing journey.

    Key Takeaways:

    • Online comments reflect others’ pain, not your truth.
    • Confirmation bias makes us latch onto the words that reinforce our fears and insecurities.
    • You don’t need strangers in the comment section to tell you who you are, you already know.
    • Protecting your mental health means learning to filter harmful input and focus on what serves your healing.
    • Reflective Question:

      Before you scroll, ask yourself: Is this serving my healing, or is it making it harder?

      If this episode resonated with you, share it with someone who might need to hear it. And if you’ve found healthier ways to navigate online negativity, let us know—we’re in this together.

      Connect with Luke:

      • Website: www.lifecoachluke.com
      • Instagram: @mylifecoachluke
      • Join the After the Affair community at www.facebook.com/groups/aftertheaffaircommunity

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