After the Affair

122. You Have Built A Glass Wall: And It Is Keeping You Stuck


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In this episode of After the Affair, we explore a powerful metaphor, the “glass wall.” It’s the invisible barrier that betrayed partners often build after infidelity. From the outside, it looks like openness and connection, but from the inside, it’s a shield, keeping you emotionally safe but painfully disconnected.

We’ll unpack how these walls form, how they evolve from solid brick to deceptive glass and the signs that you might still be behind one. Most importantly, we’ll discuss how to start dismantling the glass wall, brick by brick, to foster true vulnerability, connection, and healing in your relationship.

Whether you’re a betrayed, or unfaithful partner, this episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating the complexities of rebuilding trust and intimacy after betrayal.

Key Takeaways:

  • The progression from a brick wall to a glass wall: why it happens and how it impacts relationships.
  • Signs you’re living behind a glass wall and how it might keep you stuck in pain.
  • Why safety can feel comforting but comes at the cost of connection and intimacy.
  • Practical strategies to recognize and begin dismantling the emotional barriers that prevent true healing.
  • Reflective Questions:

    • Do you feel emotionally safe but disconnected in your relationship?
    • Are there walls—brick or glass—that you’ve built to protect yourself?
    • What small step could you take this week toward vulnerability and connection?
    • Connect with Luke:

      • Website: www.lifecoachluke.com
      • Instagram: @mylifecoachluke
      • Join the After the Affair community at www.facebook.com/groups/aftertheaffaircommunity

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