Choosing to Stay

#130 Honesty After Betrayal: Breaking the Cycle of Lying and Rebuilding Trust


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Lying often begins as self-protection—but in the aftermath of betrayal, it becomes one of the biggest barriers to rebuilding connection. In this solo episode, Hali explores why lying becomes a habit, how it deepens disconnection, and what it takes to courageously choose honesty as part of the healing journey. Whether you’re the partner in recovery or the betrayed partner navigating trust issues, this conversation is about more than just telling the truth—it’s about reclaiming integrity, safety, and authentic connection. “Honesty isn’t just about facts. It’s about aligning your inner and outer world—and that’s where real healing begins.”

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

  • Why lying becomes a default pattern in betrayal
  • The hidden fears that fuel dishonesty (rejection, shame, loss of control)
  • How dishonesty creates a cycle of disconnection and mistrust
  • Practical steps to build honesty like a muscle—even in low-stakes moments
  • How to repair trust through accountability and consistent truth-telling
  • Why support systems matter in sustaining honesty and recovery
  • Lying often starts as a survival skill—but it can’t coexist with real intimacy.
  • Honesty is a practice, not a one-time choice.
  • Rebuilding trust requires truth, accountability, and self-regulation.
  • Both partners need safe spaces to process pain and grow.

Men’s Brain-Body Healing Summit — November 6–9, 2025 | Mesa, AZ

If you’ve ever felt stuck in old patterns—even after trying therapy, groups, or self-help—you’re not alone. Healing after betrayal, trauma, or chronic stress isn’t just a “mind thing.” It lives in the brain, body, and nervous system.

That’s why we created the Men’s Brain-Body Healing Summit, a 4-day immersive experience designed to help men reset and reclaim their strength from the inside out.

If you’re ready to reset, reconnect, and rise, this may be the missing piece you’ve been looking for.

📅 Dates: November 6–9, 2025
📍 Location: Mesa, Arizona
✉️ To learn more or schedule a consultation:

👉 Learn more and register here

Thank you for tuning in!

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

Your Hosts:

Hali Roderick Certified Relational Recovery Coach TICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, Brainspotting Practitioner

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Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery Coach MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C

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We look forward to journeying with you!


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