Choosing to Stay

#133 Meeting Your Betrayed Spouse in the Mess: Empathy, Patience, and Presence Through the Holidays


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In this honest and compassionate episode, Hali and Stephanie speak directly to those who have betrayed trust and are navigating the deep discomfort of the holiday season.

When you’re the one who caused harm, it’s natural to want to “fix” things — to bring joy back, to create happy moments, to prove your love and remorse. But often, that well-intentioned positivity can feel like bypass to your partner — like you’re skipping past their pain to ease your own guilt.

This conversation helps you understand what empathy looks like in action — how to stay grounded, offer comfort without pressure, and walk through the season with humility, patience, and presence.

You’ll learn how to avoid common pitfalls like overcompensating, defensiveness, or forced cheer, and instead practice the kind of empathy that fosters real safety and trust over time.Thank you for tuning in!

We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

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Hali Roderick

Certified Relational Recovery Coach

TICC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C, Brainspotting Practitioner

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Stephanie Hamby

Certified Relational Recovery Coach

MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-C

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We look forward to journeying with you!


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