After the Affair

137. When You Suspect an Affair


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When you suspect infidelity but don’t have the proof, it can feel like you’re living in emotional limbo, caught between your gut and your guilt. In this episode, we unpack the messy, painful, and very human experience of wondering whether something’s going on behind your back.

You’ll learn how to stop spiralling and start grounding, why your feelings are valid even without confirmation, and how to begin reclaiming trust in yourself, no matter what happens next.

If you’re frozen in fear or stuck in overanalysis, this is your lifeline.

 
  • You don’t need “proof” to honour your pain, suspicion itself creates emotional distress worth tending to.
  • Overanalysis feels like control, but often creates more confusion and disconnect from your truth.
  • Grounding and anchoring practices help shift you from obsession to self-alignment.
  • The path forward begins by asking: “What do I need?” instead of “What are they hiding?”
  • Clarity doesn’t always come from answers, it comes from reconnecting with your values, boundaries, and self-trust.
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    What would it look like to honour yourself in this moment, without needing all the answers? Share your reflections with us or journal about the question:

    👉 “What helps me feel more like myself, even in the middle of this?”

    Connect with Luke:

    • Website: www.lifecoachluke.com
    • Instagram: @mylifecoachluke
    • Join the After the Affair community at www.facebook.com/groups/aftertheaffaircommunity

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