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You know what to do. You want it. And somehow… you still end up making the exception.
In this episode, I'm telling you a story from my house (marker + toddlers + the phrase "maybe next time")—and why that moment hit me like a freight train. Because "maybe next time" is cute when you're three… but catastrophic when it becomes your strategy as an adult.
We're talking about the real reason you keep repeating the same patterns: you're trying to change the behavior after the decision—of course you are— stop binging, eat less processed food, work out more, get up with your alarm, stick to your budget, drink less alcohol…
…but the decision is usually made before any of that, in the seconds where you quietly lay down a perspective that makes drifting feel reasonable.
In this episode, you'll hear:
The "maybe next time" moment—and why it explains so much about adult patterns
What it means that you're wearing the evidence (physically, emotionally, financially)
Why you're focusing on the wrong part of the process (and trying to change the wrong part)
The "track" metaphor: how your perspective pre-decides your next move
Why awareness isn't enough when the moment hits fast, emotional, and automatic
If you want help installing a response that holds up in real life: DEFENSE Foundations starts March 1st.
You'll get:
The DEFENSE Playbook (patterns, talkbacks, tools refined across multiple rounds)
Weekly training videos (not live)
Live weekly office hours with me
Investment: $797 (with a 2-payment option completed during the 4 weeks)
Credit detail:
First 15 people: 100% credit toward the full 8-week DEFENSE within 12 months
After that: 50% credit within 12 months
➡️ Link to join DEFENSE Foundations
✉️ If you're unsure, email me and tell me the most common "track" you lay right before you drift—I'll tell you honestly if Foundations is the right next step.
By Elizabeth Benton4.9
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You know what to do. You want it. And somehow… you still end up making the exception.
In this episode, I'm telling you a story from my house (marker + toddlers + the phrase "maybe next time")—and why that moment hit me like a freight train. Because "maybe next time" is cute when you're three… but catastrophic when it becomes your strategy as an adult.
We're talking about the real reason you keep repeating the same patterns: you're trying to change the behavior after the decision—of course you are— stop binging, eat less processed food, work out more, get up with your alarm, stick to your budget, drink less alcohol…
…but the decision is usually made before any of that, in the seconds where you quietly lay down a perspective that makes drifting feel reasonable.
In this episode, you'll hear:
The "maybe next time" moment—and why it explains so much about adult patterns
What it means that you're wearing the evidence (physically, emotionally, financially)
Why you're focusing on the wrong part of the process (and trying to change the wrong part)
The "track" metaphor: how your perspective pre-decides your next move
Why awareness isn't enough when the moment hits fast, emotional, and automatic
If you want help installing a response that holds up in real life: DEFENSE Foundations starts March 1st.
You'll get:
The DEFENSE Playbook (patterns, talkbacks, tools refined across multiple rounds)
Weekly training videos (not live)
Live weekly office hours with me
Investment: $797 (with a 2-payment option completed during the 4 weeks)
Credit detail:
First 15 people: 100% credit toward the full 8-week DEFENSE within 12 months
After that: 50% credit within 12 months
➡️ Link to join DEFENSE Foundations
✉️ If you're unsure, email me and tell me the most common "track" you lay right before you drift—I'll tell you honestly if Foundations is the right next step.

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