Boundaries protect the relationship, not push partners away.

Boundaries are about preserving core values and rights.

Learn to recognize the need behind the boundary.

Consistency over time is crucial for rebuilding trust.

The betrayer can create barriers to manage their own behaviors.

02:18 The Fence Analogy

04:22 Defining Boundaries and Their Importance

06:54 Men’s Perspective on Boundaries

13:03 Challenges and Misconceptions

17:58 Effort vs Outcome

22:26 Safety and Validation

30:39 Create Barriers to Provide Safety

In-person Intensive: ⁠Unmasked: Paths to Authentic Masculinity for Men⁠ - This is a three-day live intensive led by Alana and Luke Gordon. This program is designed to help men delve deep into understanding integrity, unveiling layers of shame, and reclaiming their authentic selves. Intensive will be held in Spanish Fork, UT on Sept 18th-20th, 2024. Learn more and register ⁠HERE⁠.

Revive and Thrive: Betrayal Trauma Intensive for Women - This four-day retreat offers a sanctuary for those healing from betrayal trauma, combining expert-led classes, somatic practices, and supportive community connections. Learn to reconnect with your body, process your trauma, and build resilience. Join us August 21-24, 2024 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Register HERE.

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Choose 90 for Men - Support group for men who are ready to take the first step towards recovery from compulsive behavior, infidelity and/or betrayal.

Choose 180 for Men - This support group helps men gain emotional intelligence so they can better manage unwanted behaviors. Participants will connect with other men, better understand their emotions, work through shame, and build a deep respect for themselves.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠

Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication.

Empowerment After Betrayal for Men⁠ - This betrayal trauma support group is for men who have been betrayed. They will receive resources to recover from betrayal trauma while being surrounded by a supportive community.

Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.

Healing Hearts - NEW 15-week course for individuals and couples to complete at their own pace. The course emphasizes the development of empathy, integrity, and authentic intimacy. Find more info about the self-paced course here.

Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. First four weeks are free!

Choose Renewal - For women recovering from unwanted sexual behavior. Focus on recovery and healing from patterns of sexual acting out in a safe, nurturing community.

Resilient Teens - Ongoing support group for teens ages 15-18 whose parents have experienced betrayal in their marriage.

Adult Children Uniting for Healing - Ongoing support group for adult children of parents who have experienced betrayal in their marriage and who need support navigating their own experience with betrayal.