Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal

#141 When “We’re Still Together” Isn’t the Same as Healing


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Many couples stay together after infidelity—but staying together isn’t the same as healing.

In this episode of Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal, we explore the quiet, often unspoken space many couples live in after betrayal: life looks calmer on the outside, but underneath there’s still tension, disconnection, or a sense of holding your breath.

This conversation gently examines how avoidance can masquerade as peace, the difference between rugsweeping and real repair, and the signs that healing is actually happening—for both partners.

This episode isn’t about pushing you toward a decision or creating pressure to “do more.” It’s about offering clarity without urgency, and honesty without self-abandonment.


Connect With Me + Continue Your Healing

Join me at one of the Upcoming Betrayal Trauma Conferences: 

The Betrayal Healing Conference on January 26-30, 2026. (Virtual)

Together We Rise: Collaboration, Care, and Community in Recovery in person in Dallas, TX on Feb. 4-6, 2026

If today’s episode resonated with you, you don’t have to walk the healing journey after betrayal alone. I create trauma-informed resources, conversations, and learning experiences to support individuals and couples navigating infidelity, betrayal trauma, and relational repair.

Here are a few ways to stay connected and continue your healing:

Join me at a Retreat or Intensive

If you’re craving deeper, in-person support and embodied healing, I’m helping facilitate two upcoming experiences created specifically for betrayed partners.

The Courage to Thrive Betrayal Trauma Intensive takes place March 17–20 in Spanish Fork, Utah and offers a structured, trauma-informed space to understand betrayal trauma, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild self-trust.

Later this year, the Rise, Renew, Restore Retreat in Costa Rica, happening July 13–18, offers a more spacious, restorative experience focused on slowing down, reconnecting with your body, and healing in the presence of nature and supportive community. 

Free Resources & Downloads

Access free tools, guided practices, and educational resources designed to support nervous system regulation, self-trust, boundaries, and clarity after betrayal.

👉A Mini Guide to Mindful Healing After Betrayal

👉Your First Steps to Rising After Betrayal

Upcoming Course: Reclaiming You After Betrayal

If you’re ready for deeper guidance in a structured, supportive format, I am offering a course focused on healing after betrayal, rebuilding self-trust, and grounding into your values and identity—without rushing decisions about staying or leaving.

This course is ideal for those who want support without individual coaching and at a pace that honors their nervous system.

👉 Join the Reclaiming You Waitlist to be the first to Register!

Listen to My Other Podcast

If you are a betrayed partner, I also host a second podcast called ⁠Rooted & Rising Healing After Betrayal,⁠ created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma. This show offers grounded, trauma-informed conversations, solo reflections, and tools to help you reconnect with yourself, reclaim your voice, and rise with clarity and strength. 

👉 ⁠Rooted and Rising Healing After Betrayal⁠

Join My Newsletter

Stay connected through my newsletter, where I share reflections, trauma-informed insights, and updates on upcoming courses, workshops, retreats, and live experiences.

👉 Rooted and Rising Weekly

Connect With Me Between Episodes

Join me on social media for continued conversation, encouragement, and resources between podcast episodes.

👉 Instagram: @rootedandrising.healing

👉 Facebook: Rooted and Rising Healing with Hali Roderick

👉 Website: www.rootedandrisinghealing.com

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