On Attachment

#144: Why You Struggle to Let Go After a Break-Up (Even When They Were "Bad" For You)


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In today's episode, I'm sharing some thoughts on why you might struggle to let go of someone after a break-up - especially in circumstances where you logically know that they were "bad" for you.  This is such a common experience, particularly for those with anxious attachment - feeling pulled in two different directions between what you know is best vs what your body and attachment system is urging you to do.

We cover:

  • the importance of managing expectations after a break-up
  • why it's normal to miss your ex (without it meaning anything)
  • why unhealthy or dysfunctional relationships can be even harder to let go of
  • treating moving on as a choice rather than a feeling\

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