After the Affair

147. When Things Feel Off: Trusting Your Gut After Betrayal


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You’ve rebuilt. Or maybe you’ve started again. On the surface, things seem okay, your partner’s doing the work, or your new relationship looks healthy. And yet… something still feels off. Not wrong exactly, just off.

In this episode, we explore that subtle unease that often lingers after betrayal, the one that can leave you second-guessing your instincts, your partner, and even yourself. You’ll learn why your body might be picking up on cues your brain hasn’t named yet, and how to tell the difference between fear-based reactions and genuine gut wisdom.

🔑 Key Takeaways:
  • Feeling “off” doesn’t always mean something’s wrong, but it always deserves your attention.
  • After betrayal, it’s normal to feel unsettled even when things look fine on the surface.
  • You don’t need proof to honour your discomfort. Your body is valid evidence.
  • Questions like “Am I responding to now, or to the past?” can help you untangle intuition from trauma.
  • Sensitivity isn’t a flaw. It’s an invitation to deepen your self-trust.
  • Have you ever felt something was off, even when everything looked okay? Tune in and learn how to explore that feeling without spiraling into fear. 🎧

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