Playing With Fire

150 Asymmetric Agreements: How much balance should we strive for?


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So, you want to create relationship agreements with your partner. Great! You probably want those agreements to be fair, balanced, and symmetrical. Great… right?

Here’s the thing: everyone is different. We all have our own needs, wants, limits, trauma histories… the list goes on! So is trying to make symmetrical relationship agreements a worthwhile task? (Spoiler alert: not really!)

In this episode, we discuss how you can use the concept of asymmetry on purpose, and we break down why it can be a powerful way to create agreements that are practical, honest, and that account for the unpredicted.

Listen on to learn about:

—What ‘fairness’ actually means in the context of relationship agreements

—Why agreements should be explicit and mutual

—The power of actually writing down your agreements

—The importance of aligning your agreements with your values

—How the process of creating these agreements can be a transformative way to deepen your understanding of yourself and your partner

Are you ready to open your relationship happily? Find out at⁠⁠ ⁠www.JoliQuiz.com⁠

Get the answers you want to create the open relationship of your dreams! Sign up for an Ask Me Anything here

Read the transcript of this episode here

Music: Dance of Felt by Blue Dot Sessions

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