How Not To Suck At Divorce: Divorce Advice You Need To Hear

156. How to Manage the Most Common Forms of Divorce Manipulation


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When manipulation sneaks into your divorce, it’s not just annoying, it’s super dangerous. In this candid episode, Andrea and Morgan teach you how to spot the most common manipulation tactics used before and during divorce, and how to stop falling for them. With the unforgettable acronym WTF (Want, Three Steps Ahead, Facts), they walk you through real scenarios, including guilt-tripping about the kids, controlling family finances, and “let’s not use lawyers” setups. Plus, Andrea shares a personal story that inspired the entire conversation complete with a tribute to her late grandmother, the original queen of no-BS.


What you’ll learn:

  • The WTF method: Want, Three Steps Ahead, and Facts
  • How pre-divorce manipulation keeps you stuck (and what to do)
  • Why “we don’t need lawyers” is a massive red flag
  • Guilt tactics involving kids, family, and money
  • How to shut down drama without escalating conflict
  • The emotional and financial cost of being reactive
  • How to think like a chess player, not a punching bag


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