After the Affair

159. The Truth About Safety After Betrayal


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After infidelity, “safety” becomes the word we chase;


- Emotional safety
- Relational safety
- Internal safety

But what does that actually mean? And how do you build it when trust has been broken?

In this episode, Luke explores the delicate balance between finding safety within yourself and rebuilding safety with your partner.

Because healing isn’t about becoming immune to pain or pretending you don’t need anyone, it’s about knowing how to meet yourself when the pain comes, and recognising who’s capable of meeting you there too.

In this episode, we’ll explore:

  • What “inner safety” really means (and what it doesn’t)
  • Why self-trust and relational trust are two sides of the same bridge
  • How to stop gaslighting yourself into accepting unsafe behaviour
  • The difference between chaos and connection
  • Why craving reassurance isn’t weakness, it’s wiring
  • If you’ve ever wondered whether it’s possible to feel safe again, both within yourself and in a relationship that’s been shaken by betrayal, this episode is for you.

    Connect with Luke:

    • Website: www.lifecoachluke.com
    • Instagram: @mylifecoachluke
    • Join the After the Affair community at www.facebook.com/groups/aftertheaffaircommunity

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