After the Affair

160. The Problem with Using Ai to Heal Your Heart After Betrayal


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AI can answer your questions, offer reassurance, even write the perfect breakup text. But can it really help you heal after betrayal?

In this episode, Luke explores the growing use of AI tools in emotional recovery, from journaling and reflection to replacing genuine connection, and asks an important question: What happens when your search for healing turns into another form of avoidance?

Luke unpacks:

  • Why we turn to AI when we’re hurting
  • The difference between reflection and relationship
  • How AI can support clarity, but not replace connection
  • The subtle danger of outsourcing your inner voice
  • How to use AI consciously, without losing your sense of self
  • Because real healing still begins where it always has, within you.

    Key Takeaways:

    • AI can help you process thoughts, but it can’t meet emotional needs.
    • Healing requires human connection, not just understanding.
    • Be mindful of using AI to avoid feeling rather than explore feeling.
    • Technology is a tool, not a therapist.
    • Awareness is what keeps reflection from turning into dependency.
    • Connect with Luke:

      • Website: www.lifecoachluke.com
      • Instagram: @mylifecoachluke
      • Join the After the Affair community at www.facebook.com/groups/aftertheaffaircommunity

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