After the Affair

162. When You Don’t Know What to Do After Betrayal


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After betrayal, it’s common to feel paralysed, caught between wanting to fix things and fearing you’ll make the wrong move. Every decision feels heavy, every option uncertain.

In this episode, Luke explores the truth about indecision after betrayal and why waiting to feel sure is keeping you stuck.

He shares how our minds chase certainty to avoid pain, and how the real path forward begins with trust, not in others, but in yourself. If you’ve been living in limbo, this short, reflective episode will help you breathe again, take one small step, and start rebuilding from a place of calm and clarity.

Key Takeaways:
  • Indecision after betrayal isn’t weakness; it’s your nervous system trying to keep you safe.
  • Certainty is an illusion; it’s not the goal. Self-trust is.
  • Clarity doesn’t come before you act; it comes because you act.
  • You don’t need to know everything right now; you only need to take the next honest step.
  • Healing begins when you stop chasing control and start trusting yourself again.
  • Connect & Continue the Journey:

    If today’s episode resonated with you and you’re ready to stop living in limbo, Luke’s coaching and community are here to help.

    Visit lifecoachluke.com to learn more about private coaching and become a part of The After the Affair Collective, a supportive space for those navigating life, love, and healing after infidelity.

    You don’t have to do this alone.

    Connect with Luke:

    • Website: www.lifecoachluke.com
    • Instagram: @mylifecoachluke
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