One of the most painful parts of betrayal is believing someone else was chosen instead of you.

It can feel like a verdict, proof that you weren’t enough, that your worth has been measured and found wanting.

But what if being chosen was never the measure of your value in the first place?

In this episode, Luke explores the deeply human craving to be chosen and how it becomes distorted after betrayal. He explains why comparing yourself to an affair partner keeps you trapped in a story that was never about you, and how to reclaim your worth from the false belief that someone else’s choice defines it.

If you’ve ever wondered, “Why them, not me?” this episode will help you find peace, clarity, and strength in remembering that your value was never up for debate.

If today’s episode helped you see yourself more clearly, you don’t have to stop here.

Through one-to-one coaching and The After the Affair Collective, Luke helps people rebuild self-worth that doesn’t depend on being picked, proving, or pleasing.

Connect with Luke: