Feeling like you’re constantly running on empty? You’re not alone. Especially when you’re an empath, like me, it’s so easy to fall into the trap of allowing everyone access to your emotions and energy. But it doesn’t actually serve anyone, least of all you, to give yourself emotionally all the time. In this episode, I’m talking about the importance of setting emotional and energetic boundaries and how to set them in a way that serves you best.

 

How to Get Snobby with Your Energy

1. Evaluate where your emotional energy is going
2. Decide you want more emotional energy for you
3. Define what’s yours and get snobby with your energy

 

Why We Need Energetic Boundaries

Get snobby with who you allow into your energy field. Especially if you’re an empath, it is almost engrained in us to give everyone access to our emotional space and our energy. Protecting your energetic field is so important. When we are always available to everyone, we don’t end up serving anyone, least of all ourselves.

What I want to encourage you to do is to set emotional and energetic boundaries. These boundaries are so important. You can choose to allow people to join you inside your boundaries, but having that emotional intimacy with everyone is exhausting and destructive.

 

How to Set Energetic Boundaries

Being emotionally intimate with too many people has a negative impact on your health. You owe it to yourself to set healthy boundaries. Check in with yourself. Where is your emotional energy going?

Would your emotional energy be better served by yourself? If you decide yes, it can, this is where I want you to get snobby. Define what is yours and what is not yours. What is not yours does not serve you – and that is okay. In fact, setting emotional boundaries can actually lead to healthier relationships.

Where are you feeling your emotional energy? How can you draw your energy back to yourself and set a boundary? Let me know in the comments on the episode page what steps you’re taking to reclaim your energy and how you feel about it.

 

In This Episode 

• Why we need to protect our energetic field [3:00]
• What it means to get snobby with your energy [7:00]
• How to create emotional boundaries for energetic regulation [11:00]
• The importance of solely holding space [19:00]
• Why you need to choose who to be emotionally intimate with [19:30]
• Why your health depends on you to take a boundary [25:00]
• What happens when you own yours and they own theirs [27:15]
• How emotional boundaries help you form healthier relationships [27:45]

 

Quotes

“What’s mine is mine, and what’s yours is yours means that I can hold space and see that you’re dealing with some thoughts, emotions, situations, and things. And that is not mine. This is mine over here. I have enough of my own.” [4:15]

“Think of it this way. Even though you want to make the hurt go away for other people, that is not yours to do. You can hold space, and you can be there to help them work through it, but it is not your responsibility to feel it for them.” [10:13]

“If you don’t start setting at least some boundaries to protect that energetic field, it is going to continue to drain.” [12:03]

“Get snobby with where you allow the intimacy. You’re not meant to be intimate with everyone. You get to choose that. When you are choosing that emotional intimacy, that is when you’re saying, ‘this is mine, and that is yours.’ That is super powerful. It is not selfish. It will allow you to show up and serve in the way that you want to, versus showing up and serving in the way that you have to.” [19:54]

“When you are taking what’s yours, you take it. And I’ll take what’s mine. What are you doing? You are creating the most authentic version of yourself.” [24:07]

“When you start plugging the hole, zipping up, taking that energetic field into your own hands and enhancing it, fostering it, and growing it to whatever level that you want to grow it… This is when you are going to have the magic happen.” [25:21]

“When you can start owning what’s yours, that’s when the work begins. That’s when you get to go deeper and curate what you want yours to look like. Then, it empowers those around you to own theirs.” [27:09]

 

Resources

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