Confession: We have not solved our mono-minds. The paradigm of monogamy runs deep in our society, so even though we’ve done decades of deep work to break out of those default frameworks and process our internalized polyphobia, we aren’t immune to the trappings of the mono-mind.

Just like many of the other life-changing processes that come with opening up intentionally and successfully (think individuation and differentiation), there is no end point to unpacking your mono-mind. It’s a life-long process, and we love to talk about it!

Our last episode on unf*cking your mono-mind is one of our top 10 most popular episodes, so we have a hunch that this may be coming up for you too… which is why we’re going even deeper in this part 2 episode.

In this episode, we’re breaking down:

— The concept of the mono-mind and how it influences our assumptions and perspectives on life and relationships

— Internalized polyphobia and why the default beliefs of a monogamous society can run so deep in our psyches

— How to recognize monogamous biases in our thoughts, language, and behaviors

— The importance of questioning what defines romance and intimacy while unpacking your mono-mindset

— Why looking at how you view friendships can be a powerful way to unpack your monogamous lenses

— The slippery nature of monogamous norms

— How the mono-mind can impact experiences of jealousy and boundaries in your relationships

— Why the process of unf*cking your mono-mind never has a clear end point (and why that’s not a bad thing)

— The value of community support and resources for unpacking monogamous conditioning

— Practical steps you can take to increase your awareness of mono-centric assumptions and tendencies

Resources mentioned in this episode:

— The book Polywise by Jessica Fern and David Cooley

— Playing With Fire Episode 94 Romantic Friendships: Subversive & Awesome

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Music: Dance of Felt by ⁠Blue Dot Sessions