Fear influences far more of our behaviour than most of us realise.

Not obvious fear.

Not panic or terror.

But the quiet, reasonable-sounding fear that shows up as urgency, overthinking, control, and the need for certainty.

In this episode, Luke Shillings explores how fear operates as a hidden driver in everyday life, and why it becomes even more powerful after betrayal, when safety and predictability have been shattered.

You’ll learn how fear disguises itself as logic and responsibility, how it fuels the pressure to decide before you’re ready, and why chasing certainty often keeps people stuck. Most importantly, this episode helps you recognise fear without letting it run the show, so you can move forward in a way that aligns with who you want to be, even while uncertainty remains.

This episode is for anyone who feels rushed, stuck, or overwhelmed by the need to “know” what to do next.

Fear isn’t a weakness.

It’s a protective response to uncertainty.

But healing doesn’t come from eliminating fear, it comes from recognising it and choosing from a steadier place.

You don’t need to outrun fear.

You just don’t need to obey it.

If fear feels like it’s driving your decisions right now, support can help you slow the pace and reconnect with your internal compass.

Through one-to-one coaching and The After the Affair Collective, Luke helps people navigate uncertainty without rushing themselves into decisions they’re not ready for.

You can learn more at lifecoachluke.com, or reach out directly.

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