It’s safe to meet your needs, especially in this world where we’re more accustomed to putting others first. It helps us communicate better and be true to who we really are. Talk to others about your needs, put yourself first, and heal what wasn’t met in your childhood. In this episode, I’m talking about why we need to prioritize ourselves, how saying "yes" to ourselves can change our lives, and why it's so good for us overall.

 

How to Meet Your Needs Yourself

1. Figure out your why

2. What do you need to make the next best decision to get there?

 

It’s Safe to Meet Your Needs

Most people constantly hold back from doing what they want to do – and what they need to do. This often stems from unresolved and unmet needs from our childhood. When we have this mindset, we most often put everyone else’s needs before our own.

I encourage you to put your needs first. But not just that, it’s important to talk about your needs with your children and your loved ones, too. This opens up your communication channels with them. Not only that, it helps them see that putting their needs first is healthy and safe.

 

Put Yourself First

You are the most important person in the room. When you put yourself first and go all-in on yourself, you will be better able to show up fully as your most authentic self. Don’t be afraid to go after what you need.

To say yes to yourself, to put your needs first, is the most healing and authentic thing you can do. You can’t serve others if you don’t serve yourself first. When you do this, put your needs first, and step into yourself, you learn to trust yourself in situations that are good for you and avoid situations that won’t be.

Do you know what you need? What need did you have when you were a child, and how can you meet it now? Journal about this concept and let me know your thoughts in the comments on the episode page.

 

In This Episode 

• Why we hold back from doing what we want to do [5:00]

• What it means to have unmet needs, especially in your childhood [8:00]

• How meeting and talking about your needs opens up communication with your loved ones [9:30]

• How going all in on you will help you show up more fully and authentically [12:30]

• What it means to say yes to yourself [15:00]

• What you can learn about the blind spots that trigger you [23:45]

• What happens when you’re safe in your own body [25:30]

 

Quotes

“A common theme that comes up for many of us is that we hold back on doing what we want because we think that it will somehow impact, in a negative way, somebody else. In particular, somebody that we really care about. So we don’t do it for us.” [5:16]

“We have to meet our needs if we want to positively impact those that are watching us.” [9:29]

“Do you know what you need? I’m going to guess that you probably do. And I’m going to also tell you that it’s probably buried with a whole lot of thoughts saying that you can’t have what you want because there are all these other things and people that you need to tend to first. I need you to break the barrier on that because that is not useful. You will never serve others if you cannot serve yourself first.” [12:04]

“Don’t be afraid to go after your needs. Don’t be afraid to go back and question, “Why do I have trouble honoring what I need?”” [23:51]

“Safety. We really have to get back to the idea that we can be safe in our own body, and that’s all that we really need.” [25:23]

 

Resources Mentioned

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