On Purpose with Jay Shetty

2 Misconceptions About Love & How to Turn Toxicity into Healthy Boundaries


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Today, I'm joined by Haesue Jo, Licensed Therapist & Head of Clinical Operations at BetterHelp, with years of experience providing individual and family therapy in community mental health. Her current clinical focus includes working with individuals with a variety of presenting problems, including anxiety, relationship and family issues, trauma, community violence, gender identity, and depression.

This is the part two of a two-part series where I take the client seat and have a full therapy session with Haesue. In the first session, we talk about several sensitive topics including my childhood experiences, trauma, bullying, teenage struggle and so much more. Our focus for today’s session is relationships. We cover the unhealthy patterns that ruin relationships, what to do when you’re not getting the level of love and affection you are willing to give, learning how to read your partner’s emotional struggles and their efforts to make the relationships work, and how you can control your emotions by setting the right kind of boundaries.   

This episode is sponsored by BetterHelp.

What We Discuss:

  • 00:00:00 Intro
  • 00:02:30 How do therapists monitor relationship building?
  • 00:06:07 What do relationships mean to you?
  • 00:11:02 If parents can articulate their thoughts well
  • 00:12:21 Not getting back the same love you're giving
  • 00:16:00 Why monks practice celibacy?
  • 00:19:24 We love and express love in a certain way
  • 00:26:56 Expecting your partner to just know
  • 00:30:38 How do you know your partner is making an effort?
  • 00:35:05 Overcompensating because of fear
  • 00:40:24 What makes a relationship worth fighting for?
  • 00:47:43 The 'WE' versus 'YOU' language
  • 00:52:00 Not all things in the world is one-sided

Episode Resources

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