Sustainable Family Change: Parenting Framework for Lasting Results

Here's a little thought exercise: think back to what you were doing this time last year, right around Mother's Day (in the U.S...I know it has already passed in other places!).

 

What kinds of things were your children doing that were really endearing?

 

What kinds of things were they doing that drove you up the wall?

 

What kinds of fights (resistance, back-talk, stalling, tantrums, etc.) were you having with them a year ago?

 

Are you still having those same fights now (or variations on them)?

 

Do you wish you weren't still having those fights? That you could get out of the endless cycle of trying an idea you saw on Instagram, seeing a small change, and backsliding to where you were before?

 

Do you have all the tools you need so that a year from now you can look back and know, without any shadow of a doubt, that things are different now?

 

Today I'm going to introduce you to several parents who have made exactly this shift, and a framework you can use to make it for yourself.

 

It's not complicated. There are only five elements to it, and when they're all in place you can make sustainable change in parenting, as well as your own personal issues, work, and anything else you like.

 

It really is very possible to make sustainable family change in parenting happen by yourself. But all of the five elements have to be in place, and operating consistently, to make it work.

 

Losing focus on each one of the elements creates a different outcome, none of which are good:

 

If you can see already that one or more of these things are happening for you, the Parenting Membership will help you make the kind of sustainable change you want to see in your family.

 

The first thing you'll do after you join is have a 20-minute private call with my community manager, Denise, who will see which element you're struggling with the most right now, and connect you to specific resources to help.

 

 

Of course these parents still have hard days...but none of them looks back on who they were a year ago and thinks: "Aside from the fact that my kids are older, I don't really know what's different now from what it was a year ago."

 

I want this kind of sustainable family change for you, too. It's so much more than taking a short course to learn a new skill. It's a fundamentally different way of being in the world.

 

Join the waitlist and get notified when doors reopen in May 2025. Click the image below to learn more.

 

 

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00:56 Introducing today’s topic

02:01 Parent Niloufar's positive transformation in parenting through the Setting Loving (& Effective!) Limits workshop

08:56 Parent Lucinda, a member for five years, shares how the membership transformed her self-awareness and empathy towards others' needs.

14:21 The elements of sustainable family change in parenting: vision, skills, motivation, resources, and a plan

15:02 Understanding your family values can make parenting easier and more intentional.

21:14 Skills like managing behavior and communication help parents handle challenges.

33:10 Motivation drives positive changes and fosters resilience even in challenging situations.

36:07 Resources are vital for lasting change. The Parenting Membership helps align values with actions by making smart use of resources for meaningful progress and sustainable change.

42:10 A clear plan is essential for lasting change. It acts as a roadmap, guiding actions toward goals and ensuring alignment with values.

50:23 Invitation to the Parenting Membership

53:45 Member’s testimonials