Were you the one who always held it together? The responsible one? 

The one who made sure everyone else was okay—sometimes at the cost of your own well-being? 

In this episode, we explore what it means to grow up as the eldest daughter—and how the roles we took on early in life may have shaped how we show up as women, physicians, caretakers, and leaders. 

Whether or not you're technically the eldest daughter, if you're a woman in medicine, you may recognize yourself in this conversation. 

Together, we share our personal stories, the burdens we unknowingly took on, and the healing that’s possible through mindfulness, self-compassion, and intention.

Pearls of Wisdom:

• Eldest daughter syndrome often mirrors what is expected in medicine: overresponsibility, emotional caretaking, perfectionism, and silent overwhelm.

• Mindful awareness helps us gently unpack the roots of these tendencies—where they began and why they persist—without blame or shame.

• Healing begins with recognition and continues with rest, boundaries, support, and a willingness to unlearn.

• You are allowed to stop carrying it all. And doing so may be the most loving act for yourself and those around you.

• Therapy, coaching, rest, and mindfulness are all powerful pathways to releasing what was never meant to be yours alone to hold.

Reflection Questions:

• When did you first feel like it was your job to hold it all together?

• What have you mistaken for compassion that was self-abandonment?

• What might reclaiming your story look like now—with boundaries, rest, and gentleness?

• Are there areas where forgiveness—for yourself or others—might bring relief?

Stay with us until the end for a grounding mindful moment—a space to breathe, feel, and explore what you’ve been holding... and what you might lovingly choose to lay down.

If you’re ready to stop carrying it all—and begin honoring your own needs with compassion—consider joining me for coaching: https://www.jessiemahoneymd.com/coaching

For deeper integration and connection with others who share your lived experience, I warmly invite you to join a retreat: www.jessiemahoneymd.com/retreats

If your organization or institution is seeking healing, inclusive conversations, and support around leadership, well-being, and identity, I would love to speak or lead a workshop for your group: www.jessiemahoneymd.com/speaking

Dr. Ni-Cheng Liang is also available to bring her expertise and compassionate voice to your team or conference. Learn more at www.awakenbreath.org

Nothing shared in the Healing Medicine Podcast is medical advice.