In this episode of the Better Sex podcast, host sex therapist Jessa Zimmerman discusses faith transitions and the impact on intimate relationships with guests Jeremiah Gibson and Julia Postema, co-hosts of the Sex Evangelicals podcast and founders of an international coaching business. They delve into deconstructing purity culture, gender roles, and high-control religions, sharing personal stories and professional insights. They emphasize the importance of communication, managing stress, and supporting each other through deconstruction processes. The episode offers valuable strategies for individuals and couples coping with these complex dynamics.

00:00 Introduction to Better Sex Podcast

00:46 Introducing Guests: Jeremiah Gibson and Julia Postema

01:47 Jeremiah's Journey: From Faith to Sex Therapy

04:18 Julia's Story: Overcoming Purity Culture

06:46 Defining Purity Culture and High Control Religion

10:53 Deconstructing Harmful Beliefs

13:30 Reconstructing Values and Desires

17:15 Triggers for Deconstruction

19:35 Managing Differences in Relationships

23:05 Break and Resources from Jess

23:45 Navigating Different Paces in Deconstruction

25:02 Gender Dynamics in Deconstruction

27:55 Challenges in Mixed-Faith Relationships

29:22 The Role of Therapy in Relationship Dynamics

31:35 Purity Culture and Its Long-Term Impact

40:55 Resources and Support for Deconstruction

42:18 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

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Bio:

Julia Postema and Jeremiah Gibson are the co-hosts of the podcast Sexvangelicals: The Sex Education the Church Didn't Want You to Have. They are both Boston-based licensed psychotherapists and certified sex therapists. They have a relationship coaching practice called Let's Heal Together which helps couples with negative religious backgrounds discover sexuality and communication that works for their partnership. They enjoy traveling to places that tend to fly under the radar, long-distance hiking, cooking very spicy food, unexpected conversations, and introverted days filled with reading and drinking fancy tea.

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