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In this episode, Susan explores why we sometimes react in ways that don't match our intentions. Through the lens of Internal Family Systems, she encourages parents to view those moments as protective parts taking over—and reminds us that our steady, wise Self is never far away.

• How understanding your own parts helps you respond more calmly to your child's activated parts.

• Why intellectual understanding (attachment, neuroscience, regulation) isn't always enough in charged moments.

• A simple in-the-moment reframe that creates space for your steadier "captain" self to return.

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