The Art of Charm

5 Simple Steps To Build A High Value Social Circle & Avoid Value Vampires | Toolbox


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In today’s episode, we cover the science behind the hidden power of relationships with AJ and Johnny. 

The people in your life can you lead you to success or failure, joy or frustration—so how do you know what influence people and their friends are having on your life, how can you be a high value person to attract high value friendships and relationships, and what steps can you take to upgrade your social circle?

What to Listen For

  • Introduction – 0:00
  • What influence do the people around you have on your happiness and ability to achieve your goals?
  • How do you handle relationships that have a negative influence on your life?
  • High Value vs Low Value Behavior – 10:55
  • What does it mean to be high value and why should you avoid low value behaviors if you don’t want to lose great friendships and relationships?
  • What are the benefits of being high value as much as possible?
  • Inescapable Influence of Friends and Family – 23:01 
  • How can your life be influenced by the friends of friends you don’t even know and what can you do to mitigate the harm they cause?
  • Can you filter out the negative influences of certain friends so you can keep them around for the positive influences?
  • Curate Your Social Circle – 47:30
  • What steps can you take to upgrade your existing social circle so your friends, family members, and coworkers support you rather than bring you down?
  • What is the difference between venting and gossiping and how should you respond to each one?
  • Other people are capable of having a significant impact on your life. If you let them, the right ones can set up conditions for success while leaving behind only pleasant memories and happy moments in their wake - but how do we determine which individuals will provide us with these opportunities? And more importantly: what can we do when our friends begin steering clear-cut paths towards failure or discontentment instead by trying to guide themselves into successful futures through less than honest means such as cheating at sports games etc.

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    Resources from this Episode

    • What Are Social Skills? A Value Vampire Has No Clue

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