The Anxious To Secure PODCAST

60: Q+A Series: How attachment theory changed my relationship + life: From breakdown to Breakthrough Part 01


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I once threw a remote across the room. 😼‍💹

I’m not proud of it..BUT I also don’t shame that version of me anymore.

Back then, I didn’t know how to handle conflict. I didn’t know how to self-soothe.

I didn’t know that what was happening in my nervous system wasn’t “crazy,” it was ANXIOUS ATTACHMENT running the show.

In this super vulnerable episode, I take you deep inside my relationship journey
 the intense arguments, the emotional shutdowns, and the moment I was literally crying in the grass at a London park thinking, “we can’t keep doing this
 but breaking up also feels impossible.”

I also share how discovering attachment theory changed everything — my patterns, my health, my thoughts, and eventually, my career. This is not just about becoming secure with a partner. It’s about becoming secure within yourself đŸ–€

 

In this episode, I share:

✶ The shift that helped me and my partner stop spiraling after fights
✶ What I believed about myself when I felt “too much” or “not enough”
✶ Why my body was also begging me to heal (yes, migraines + chronic stress)
✶ How I stopped needing constant reassurance + started self-validating
✶ The real reason anxious attachment feels SO intense (it’s not just about your partner)

 

This episode is your reminder that you’re not alone.

And you're not broken. You're just running old patterns.
And patterns can be re-written.. thought by thought, action by action.✹

 

CHAPTERS:

00:00 Introduction to Jula's Journey to Being an Anxious Attachment Relationship Coach

00:45 What inspired you to become a relationship coach?
14:44 Was there a moment when it all clicked?
23:08 What was your LOWEST point in love?
27:56 What did you believe about yourself back then?
31:28 How did us discovering attachment theory shift your life?
40:02 What was your biggest "OMG this is ME" moment about Attachment theory??
43:23 What helped most when you felt stuck?

 

 

DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.

 

Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.

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