ADHD Mums

64. Did Santa Just Take Credit for My Mental Breakdown?


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Christmas isn’t “cosy magic” for many ADHD mums — it’s a high-pressure, high-sensory, invisible-load marathon that no one else sees. In this episode, Jane breaks down why holiday overwhelm hits harder, why silent rage feels frightening and unfair, and what your nervous system is actually doing long before the wrapping-night meltdown. You’re not failing Christmas — you’ve been carrying it.

What We Cover
  • Why ADHD mums hit Christmas overwhelm weeks before the day arrives
  • The collapse moment: when invisible load becomes unmanageable
  • Sensory + emotional overload during holiday tasks
  • How ADHD brains burn dopamine faster under combined pressure
  • The physiology behind “Christmas rage,” shutdown, and snapping
  • Why joy disappears when you’re the one creating the magic
  • How to shift the load, communicate earlier, and prevent holiday burnout

This Episode Is For You If…
  • You dread Christmas because you’re the one doing everything
  • You crumble under the wrapping + fairness + noise + pressure
  • You feel guilty for not loving the season
  • You hit a snapping point you didn’t see coming
  • You wonder why one small question can tip you over
  • You want to understand what your body is actually trying to tell you

Key Takeaway

Your nervous system cannot enter joy while running executive load, sensory filtration, conflict prevention, and emotional labour. It’s not personal — it’s physiological.

Resources & Mentions
  • Energy Accounting Guide — A tool to reduce invisible load and prevent overwhelm
  • Perimenopause Self-Check (because hormonal load amplifies Christmas overload)

🔗 Related Resources

Festive F*ck It Plan — your calm, realistic December planner

🆓 Free Resource: The Energy Accounting PDF

🔗 Related Episodes
  • Stop People-Pleasing This Christmas — The Year I Stopped Apologising for My Child

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