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If you've ever thought...
“Why don’t I feel like a priority in my relationship?”
“Why do I spiral the moment they cancel plans or go quiet?”
“Why is my Avoidant Attached partner always me feel I don't matter..”
Then this episode is for you:
In today’s deep-dive, I break down:
✶ Why your brain + nervous system are constantly scanning for signs you don’t matter
✶ The self-fulfilling prophecy of “I’m not important”
✶ How anxious attachment keeps proving the same story over and over
✶ What to do when your body goes into panic—even if it “wasn’t a big deal”
✶ 4 Steps to shift the pattern (so you can stop overthinking and start feeling SAFE again)
This episode is especially for you if:
➞ You feel invisible in your relationship with your avoidant partner
➞ You're tired of begging for attention but also afraid to ask for more
➞ You feel like you're always chasing crumbs, not getting real connection
➞ You're exhausted from always wondering: “Am I too much? Or not enough?”
You’ll leave this episode with powerful questions, tools, and proof that you’re not broken.. just stuck in a pattern your nervous system learned a long time ago
Let’s help your body feel safe enough to RECEIVE love
FREE RESOURCES:
3-min Attachment Quiz, to KNOW your attachment with certainty:
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
Grab more FREE resources:
https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach/shop
What you'll find:
and moooore
✨Want my personal help with this? Check out these offers and resources:
➞ Monthly Text + Talk Support 📲 🖤
(daily coaching, check-ins + reassurance and becoming secure, text by text, commitment free support, cancel any month)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textandtalk
➞ Monthly Coaching Calls 📞🖤
(2x calls a month or unlimited calls + text support to help you become secure)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/oneononecoachingsubscription
COURSES 👩🏻💻📓✍🏻(for little money)
➞ How to Stop Overthinking Your Relationship with Your Avoidant Attached Partner in 4 Steps
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse
➞ How to Stop OBSESSING over your text in 21 days or less (did they reply? why haven’t they texted yet? what did they mean only texted a thumbs up?)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety
CHAPTERS:
00:00 What Happens When You Don’t Feel Like a Priority… in your Relationship
01:10 The Self-Fulfilling Prophecy of “I’m Not a Priority”
02:29 Micro-Moments + Triggers that make you feel not a Priority
04:24 The REAL reason you feel so triggered (and why it's NOT about your Partner)
06:45 ✶ Let’s Break the Cycle with the 4R Method ✶
06:58 01 Release
07:56 02 Rewire
15:21 Ways to Work with me 1:1 to become secure
17:35 03 Reconnect
18:33 04 REFLECT
21:00 Never forget these key lessons
21:56 How to create an empowered Self-Fulfilling prophecy and be treated as a priority
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By Jula - The Anxious To Secure Coach
3.7
33 ratings
If you've ever thought...
“Why don’t I feel like a priority in my relationship?”
“Why do I spiral the moment they cancel plans or go quiet?”
“Why is my Avoidant Attached partner always me feel I don't matter..”
Then this episode is for you:
In today’s deep-dive, I break down:
✶ Why your brain + nervous system are constantly scanning for signs you don’t matter
✶ The self-fulfilling prophecy of “I’m not important”
✶ How anxious attachment keeps proving the same story over and over
✶ What to do when your body goes into panic—even if it “wasn’t a big deal”
✶ 4 Steps to shift the pattern (so you can stop overthinking and start feeling SAFE again)
This episode is especially for you if:
➞ You feel invisible in your relationship with your avoidant partner
➞ You're tired of begging for attention but also afraid to ask for more
➞ You feel like you're always chasing crumbs, not getting real connection
➞ You're exhausted from always wondering: “Am I too much? Or not enough?”
You’ll leave this episode with powerful questions, tools, and proof that you’re not broken.. just stuck in a pattern your nervous system learned a long time ago
Let’s help your body feel safe enough to RECEIVE love
FREE RESOURCES:
3-min Attachment Quiz, to KNOW your attachment with certainty:
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
Grab more FREE resources:
https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach/shop
What you'll find:
and moooore
✨Want my personal help with this? Check out these offers and resources:
➞ Monthly Text + Talk Support 📲 🖤
(daily coaching, check-ins + reassurance and becoming secure, text by text, commitment free support, cancel any month)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textandtalk
➞ Monthly Coaching Calls 📞🖤
(2x calls a month or unlimited calls + text support to help you become secure)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/oneononecoachingsubscription
COURSES 👩🏻💻📓✍🏻(for little money)
➞ How to Stop Overthinking Your Relationship with Your Avoidant Attached Partner in 4 Steps
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse
➞ How to Stop OBSESSING over your text in 21 days or less (did they reply? why haven’t they texted yet? what did they mean only texted a thumbs up?)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety
CHAPTERS:
00:00 What Happens When You Don’t Feel Like a Priority… in your Relationship
01:10 The Self-Fulfilling Prophecy of “I’m Not a Priority”
02:29 Micro-Moments + Triggers that make you feel not a Priority
04:24 The REAL reason you feel so triggered (and why it's NOT about your Partner)
06:45 ✶ Let’s Break the Cycle with the 4R Method ✶
06:58 01 Release
07:56 02 Rewire
15:21 Ways to Work with me 1:1 to become secure
17:35 03 Reconnect
18:33 04 REFLECT
21:00 Never forget these key lessons
21:56 How to create an empowered Self-Fulfilling prophecy and be treated as a priority
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