Having the mental load conversation is about as fun as stepping on LEGO barefoot. You want to explain how much you're carrying, but suddenly you’re “nagging.” You try to share how exhausted you are, and now you’re “overreacting.” Meanwhile, your partner is confused, defensive, and wondering why the conversation about the car getting booked in for a service turned into an existential crisis.

Yeah. This episode is for you.

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What We’re Covering:

• How to talk about the mental load without it ending in a full-blown argument
• The difference between helping and sharing responsibility 
• What NOT to say unless you enjoy stony silence and tears.
• How to validate your partner (because “just make a list” is not the answer)
• Why one of you is focused on surviving today, while the other is planning a retirement in 2047

Resentment doesn’t mean your relationship is broken - it just means something needs to shift before you completely lose your mind.

Share with your partner or just casually leave this episode playing at full volume while they’re in the room. 😏

RESOURCES MENTIONED:

Ep 58 - Here’s What Your Partner Needs You to Know About ADHD

Ep 69 - Why Mums Are Always the Backup Plan

Ep 71 - 7 Brutally Honest Reasons ADHD Mums Stay Silent About the Mental Load

Ep 73 - Making the Invisible Mental Load Visible

The Gottman Institute

Family Meeting Template

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TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EP:

ADHD mums, mental load, invisible workload, ADHD and relationships, partner validation, ADHD burnout, overwhelm in relationships, emotional labor, household responsibilities, ADHD communication, relationship resentment, sharing the mental load, ADHD and marriage, neurodivergent parenting, supporting an ADHD partner, ADHD executive dysfunction, ADHD overwhelm, mental load frustration, ADHD and emotional regulation, ADHD masking, ADHD partner struggles, parenting with ADHD, ADHD and conflict resolution, how to explain the mental load, ADHD and invisible work, feeling unappreciated in relationships, ADHD mum exhaustion, ADHD mum mental load, ADHD and relationship dynamics, how to get your partner to understand ADHD, ADHD mum struggles, how to talk about the mental load, ADHD household management, ADHD mum stress, partner not understanding ADHD, ADHD and emotional overwhelm, ADHD mum advocacy, why the mental load is exhausting, ADHD mum frustration, ADHD and daily life, how to divide responsibilities with ADHD, ADHD mum resentment, ADHD relationship advice, ADHD and gender roles, neurodivergent relationships, ADHD relationship struggles.

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