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787. Why Being “Good” Is Hurting You: How To Choose Yourself + Be Free


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In this episode, Lindsey welcomes bestselling author Amber Rae for a soul-baring convo about breaking free from the cages we build for ourselves—yes, even the beautiful ones. Get ready for real talk on self-abandonment, “good girl” programming, and honoring your deepest desires.


Ahead, Amber opens up about her journey from a nine-year marriage built on comfort (not chemistry), to a cosmic soulmate encounter that woke up her spirit + shattered everything she knew about love. Plus, hear confessions about new motherhood + breaking generational cycles. 


Amber reveals why facing discomfort is the key to living your wildest, most liberated life—the one you’ve held secret in your heart for so long. Consider this your permission slip to question your programming, set yourself free, and start healing in every direction—lineage, love, and beyond.


We also talk about:

  • How the “good girl” myth keeps women small
  • Performing in relationships vs. living your truth
  • Soul connections: how to trust your intuition when lightning strikes
  • Why abandoning yourself to please others never works
  • Healing generational wounds—and how your growth liberates your lineage
  • Navigating shame, criticism, and judgment in the pursuit of authenticity
  • Real talk about therapy: calling out performative patterns
  • Coping with overwhelm as a new mom, writer, and creator 
  • Learning to let go of control—and letting partners (and life) surprise you

  • Resources:

    • Order Loveable out August 5th
    • Website: https://www.amberrae.com/
    • Instagram: @heyamberrae
      • Order our book, Almost 30: A Definitive Guide To A Life You Love For The Next Decade and Beyond, here: http://bit.ly/Almost30Book

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