Most people don’t stay stuck because they don’t want to change — they stay stuck because familiar pain feels safer than uncertain freedom.

In this episode, Luke explores why the nervous system chooses predictability over healing, especially for men in recovery from compulsive sexual behavior. Even when sobriety is solid and effort is high, trust often remains stalled — not because of lack of care, but because initiative requires risk.

You’ll learn:

• Why trust doesn’t grow through crisis or big gestures

• What “micro risks” are — and why they actually retrain the brain

• How honesty builds safety when it’s voluntary, early, and consistent

• The neuroscience behind effort, avoidance, and integrity

This episode is essential for anyone navigating betrayal trauma, relational repair, or long-term recovery.

Chapters

• 01:41 Challenges in Building Trust

• 02:50 Defining Micro Risks

• 04:02 Examples of Micro Risks

• 06:08 Micro Risks vs. Big Gestures

• 07:25 The Role of the Nervous System

• 11:34 Micro Risks in Relationships

• 14:26 The Anterior Cingulate Cortex

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