Many men believe that once the behavior stops, recovery should feel resolved. But what happens when sobriety doesn’t lead to closeness, safety, or repair?

In this episode Luke introduces Phase Two recovery and explains why emotional maturity isn’t about calm behavior or compliance — it’s about capacity.

You’ll learn:

• Why sobriety removes behavior but not the internal system behind it

• How emotional underdevelopment shows up after acting out stops

• What emotional, relational, and nervous system capacity actually mean

• Why effort alone doesn’t register as safety for betrayed partners

Chapters

• 03:34 Understanding Emotional Maturity

• 06:38 Defining Emotional Capacity

• 09:31 Sobriety and Emotional Development

• 13:46 Invitation to Phase Two Work

Watch the episode on YouTube ⁠HERE

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• 🦋Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey. https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/rise-renew-restore-retreat/

• ✨Courage to Thrive - This intensive brings together expert trauma specialists in the serene Utah mountains for a transformative experience that goes beyond healing—it's about getting your power back. Join other courageous women March 17th-20th, and leave with proven strategies, unshakeable boundaries, and renewed hope…because your story doesn't end with betrayal—it transforms into something powerful. https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/courage-to-thrive-betrayal-trauma-intensive/

•  ❤️‍🩹Help Her Heal Men’s Intensive - This immersive intensive is designed specifically for men to learn how to support their partners as they heal from betrayal trauma. You will participate in experiential workshops, receive personalized feedback, and learn practical tools to develop the emotional capacity needed for relationship repair. Join us April 14th-17th in Spanish Fork, UT. https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/help-her-heal-intensive/

• 💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives. https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/intensive-scholarship/

Connect With Us:

• Learn more about Luke here. 

• Schedule a complimentary consultation here.

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Wanting more? Choose Recovery Services offers many courses specifically for men:

• Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - This group helps men move through the pains of addiction, relationship healing, managing emotions, and moving past shame. You’ll learn how to better connect with others, understand your own emotional experience, and build a deeper sense of self respect.

• Help. Her. Heal - This program is for men seeking to learn more about empathy, conflict resolution, and healthy communication. 

Additional Resources from Choose Recovery Services:

• Intensives - Our intensives foster connection with others who share similar experiences, creating an immersive environment that enables profound transformation in a short period of time.

• Road to Recovery Webinar - Join us on the second Sunday of each month for a FREE interactive discussion that explores tools and strategies to support individuals and couples navigating the challenges of recovery following betrayal. 

• Choose To Be Podcast - This podcast focuses on helping women heal from infidelity and betrayal trauma.

• Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women who have recently experienced betrayal and are needing help coping with the symptoms of trauma. 

  
  Learn more and register for courses at http://chooserecoveryservices.com