Choosing to Stay

#85 The Cornerstone of Relational Repair: Consistency


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In today’s episode of The Choosing to Stay Podcast, we’re diving into a critical element of relational repair: consistency. Whether you’re a betrayed partner or someone working on rebuilding trust and sexual integrity, consistency is the bridge that connects the promise of change to the reality of healing.

What you'll learn:

  • Why consistency is essential for relational repair.

  • How consistent actions help rebuild trust brick by brick.

  • Practical tips to maintain consistency, even when progress feels slow.

  • The role of consistency in creating a new foundation for trust and connection.

  • How betrayed partners can recognize and validate consistent progress.

  • Strategies for staying consistent in your healing work.

  • Key Takeaways:

    • Consistency isn’t about perfection; it’s about showing up intentionally, day by day.

    • For those repairing trust, consistency demonstrates real change and accountability.

    • Betrayed partners can use consistency to nurture their own healing and emotional safety.

    • Navigating setbacks with grace is an important part of the process for both partners.

    • Practical Tips:

      • Establish daily rituals to reinforce your commitment to growth.

      • Celebrate small wins to stay motivated.

      • Lean on support systems like coaches, mentors, and accountability partners.

      • Practice self-compassion and stay open in communication with your partner.

      • Final Thoughts

        Consistency is the foundation of relational repair. It takes patience, courage, and daily effort to rebuild trust and create a space where connection can flourish.

        Thank you for tuning in! Remember, healing and trust grow with every consistent step forward. Until next time, take care and keep nurturing your journey toward trust and connection. As certified coaches, we aim to provide support and guidance for those who decide to stay in their relationship. We offer valuable insights, empathy, and hope on the journey toward healing. Join us weekly for encouragement, skills, and expertise.

        Your hosts are Certified Relational Recovery Coaches specializing in Infidelity and Betrayal:

        Hali Roderick- TICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM Candidate

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        Stephanie Hamby- MCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM Candidate

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