After the Affair

86. Why Affairs Don't Last


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Why don't affairs last?


Drawing on both research and personal experiences, join me, Luke Shillings as I discuss the psychological, emotional, and social factors that contribute to the inherent instability of relationships that begin as affairs. Allow me to unpack the foundations of trust, the escape mechanism, emotional tolls, and the broader impacts of secrecy and isolation that define and often doom such relationships.

What You'll Learn:

  • The Reality of Affairs: Understand the statistical likelihood of affairs turning into lasting relationships and why the odds are low.
  • Trust Issues: Discover how the initial deceit in an affair can continue to affect trust even when the relationship comes into the open.
  • Escapism and Consequences: Explore how affairs often serve as an escape from existing problems, which eventually resurface in the new relationship.
  • Social and Emotional Isolation: Learn about the isolation that accompanies affairs and how it affects relationship dynamics.
  • Emotional Costs: Consider the psychological and emotional strain that secrecy exerts on all parties involved in an affair.
  • Paths to Healing: Gain insights into how understanding these factors can be a crucial step in the healing process for anyone impacted by infidelity.
  • Episode Resources:

    • Personalised 1:1 Coaching: I can help you build a future you can trust. Visit the website to learn more - www.lifecoachlukecom
  • Additional Reading: Explore articles including: Why Do People Cheat? - https://www.lifecoachluke.com/post/why-do-people-cheat
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