1. You really try to understand me, even if I’m not making much sense.
2. You grasp my point of view, even when it’s against your own sincere convictions.
3. You realize the hour I took from you has left you a bit tired and a bit drained.
4. You allow me the dignity of making my own decisions, even though you think they may be wrong.
5. You do not take my problem from me but allow me to deal with it in my own way.
6. You hold back the desire to give me good advice.
7. You do not offer me religious solace when I am not ready for it.
8. You give me enough room to discover for myself what is really going on.
9. You accept my gratitude by telling me how good it makes you feel to know that you have been helpful.

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