Choosing to Stay

#93 Trust After Betrayal and Abandonment with Valerie Ruben from the Anxiety Recovery Podcast


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In this special crossover episode, Hali joins Valerie Rubin, host of The Anxiety Recovery Podcast, to dive deep into the impact of betrayal and infidelity on both our nervous system and sense of safety. Whether you're navigating the aftermath of betrayal in a relationship or simply trying to regain trust in yourself, this episode offers invaluable insights into how to begin healing.

Together, Hali and Valerie discuss the powerful ways that betrayal affects us emotionally and physically, with a particular focus on how it disrupts our sense of safety and trust in the world around us. They share practical tools and strategies for reconnecting with our inner selves, rebuilding trust, and regaining control over our responses to trauma.

You'll learn about:

  • The deep, often underestimated effects of betrayal on the nervous system

  • How trauma and betrayal can undermine our ability to feel safe, both within ourselves and in relationships

  • Practical steps to start rebuilding trust in yourself, from creating safe spaces to listening to your body

  • Ways to honor your own emotions and needs as you work through the healing process

  • The importance of patience and compassion as you move through your journey of recovery

  • If you've ever struggled with rebuilding trust after betrayal, this episode is a must-listen. Valerie and Hali offer real, actionable advice that can help you move forward with clarity and confidence, starting with trusting yourself first.

    Resources Mentioned in This Episode:

    • The Anxiety Recovery Podcast: Listen to Valerie's show for more insights into anxiety recovery and building resilience.

    • Choosing to Stay After Infidelity and Betrayal Episode [link to the full episode here].

    • Connect with Valerie Rubin:

      • Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/

      • Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/1UZDfyhUZgAGIdlEv5VP85?si=fb9ca0e82d554a62&nd=1&dlsi=546a32efcd5b4e06

      • Thank you for tuning in!

        We’re here to support couples healing from infidelity and betrayal, offering encouragement, practical skills, and expertise each week. As certified relational recovery coaches, we are passionate about guiding you toward hope, empathy, and lasting healing.

        Stay connected with us and access all the resources we offer—coaching sessions, groups, and more—by visiting this link.

        Your Hosts:

        Hali RoderickCertified Relational Recovery CoachTICC, PCC, APSATS CPC-Candidate, ERCEM-C

        Stephanie HambyCertified Relational Recovery CoachMCLC, ACC, APSATS CPC, ERCEM-CRead Stephanie’s Bio | Book with Stephanie

        We look forward to journeying with you!


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