What happens when healing from trauma starts to change everything—your identity, your relationships, even your marriage?

In this episode of Mother Mayhem, I read a powerful letter from a daughter who has done the work to heal… and now finds herself in a life that no longer fits.

She’s changed. Her needs have changed. But her marriage hasn’t—and now she’s wondering: What do I do with the life I built before I healed?

This episode reflects on the cost of becoming your true self after narcissistic abuse or emotional neglect—especially when trauma recovery brings clarity, grief, and new truths that are impossible to ignore.

You’ll hear themes around:

• Healing from trauma and mother wounds

• Identity shifts in long-term relationships

• What daughters of narcissistic mothers learn to tolerate

• The difference between repair and real healing

• Why self-trust can feel like betrayal

• How shame keeps us from taking up space in our own lives
  

Whether you’re rethinking your relationship, your career, or your place in the world, this episode will meet you right where you are—and remind you: you’re not alone, and you don’t have to abandon yourself to keep the peace.

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• Also mentioned: Simple Scripts for Saying Hard Things
  

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