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96: Q+A From anxious to SECURE: My attachment healing journey (before & after)
🖤 FREE Attachment LIBRARY (30+worksheets, prompts, quizzes and more)
https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach
🖤 FREE 3min Attachment Style QUIZ
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
I’m spilling a secret today… 🖤
Recently, I filled out a survey for people who’ve earned a secure attachment, and it asked questions that cut straight to the heart of how we actually get there.
What changed, what worked, and what no one tells you about leaving anxious patterns behind.
I decided to share my answers with you.. everything I revealed about my journey from anxious to secure.
The things I did daily, the mindset shifts, and the practices that rewired my nervous system so I could stop spiraling over texts, stop over-giving, and finally feel safe in love.
If you’ve ever wondered why you attract avoidants, why your anxious brain can’t stop catastrophizing, or how it actually feels to go from panicking in love to calm, grounded, and confident, this episode is your insider look.
Think of it as me giving you my secret roadmap, the exact insights I shared with a survey of people who’ve done the work and truly become secure.
🖤 ON SALE: How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in 4 Steps
(With Your Avoidant Partner)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse
🖤 ON SALE: How to STOP needing so much reassurance via text
(because safety comes from within, and you chasing or not settling boundary is the thing that give you anxiety, NOT a delayed text.)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety
1:1 Coaching Offers (via video calls or whatsapp)
https://tr.ee/PInPmy
Free Find your ANXIOUS Archetype NOW (to feel calmer)
https://tr.ee/9s05-v9M30
Free: Anxious to Secure Checklist
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/anxioustosecurechecklist
Free Quiz: Find your top 2 Relationship needs
(before your subconscious will sabotage you by meeting it in unhealthy ways, through like overthinking, clinging too hard to chasing)
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/needs
CHAPTERS:
00:00 Understanding Attachment Styles
01:04 What is Attachment Theory and Why does it matter?
06:25 Going deeper into the ANXIOUS attachment style...
10:09 10 Question about Healing my Anxious Attachment
10:38 1: What changed when you became more secure?
12:30 2: Does it feel different to be attracted to someone now?
14:40 3: What were the key turning points or breakthroughs in your transition?
19:47 4: What was the biggest barrier or challenge you had to overcome?
23:01 5: What specific actions or strategies did you take to shift from insecure to secure?
25:31 6: Which strategies were most effective?
26:08 7: How did your relationships change?
29:38 8: What mindset or belief shifts happened during your transformation?
30:23 9: How did you cultivate self-regulation and self-soothing?
32:43 10: How do you maintain secure attachment daily now?
34:53 Bonus Question (busting the biggest MYTHS)
DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.
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By Jula - The Anxious To Secure Coach
3.7
33 ratings
🖤 FREE Attachment LIBRARY (30+worksheets, prompts, quizzes and more)
https://linktr.ee/the.anxious.to.secure.coach
🖤 FREE 3min Attachment Style QUIZ
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/attachmentstyle3mquiz
I’m spilling a secret today… 🖤
Recently, I filled out a survey for people who’ve earned a secure attachment, and it asked questions that cut straight to the heart of how we actually get there.
What changed, what worked, and what no one tells you about leaving anxious patterns behind.
I decided to share my answers with you.. everything I revealed about my journey from anxious to secure.
The things I did daily, the mindset shifts, and the practices that rewired my nervous system so I could stop spiraling over texts, stop over-giving, and finally feel safe in love.
If you’ve ever wondered why you attract avoidants, why your anxious brain can’t stop catastrophizing, or how it actually feels to go from panicking in love to calm, grounded, and confident, this episode is your insider look.
Think of it as me giving you my secret roadmap, the exact insights I shared with a survey of people who’ve done the work and truly become secure.
🖤 ON SALE: How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in 4 Steps
(With Your Avoidant Partner)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse
🖤 ON SALE: How to STOP needing so much reassurance via text
(because safety comes from within, and you chasing or not settling boundary is the thing that give you anxiety, NOT a delayed text.)
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety
1:1 Coaching Offers (via video calls or whatsapp)
https://tr.ee/PInPmy
Free Find your ANXIOUS Archetype NOW (to feel calmer)
https://tr.ee/9s05-v9M30
Free: Anxious to Secure Checklist
https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/anxioustosecurechecklist
Free Quiz: Find your top 2 Relationship needs
(before your subconscious will sabotage you by meeting it in unhealthy ways, through like overthinking, clinging too hard to chasing)
https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/needs
CHAPTERS:
00:00 Understanding Attachment Styles
01:04 What is Attachment Theory and Why does it matter?
06:25 Going deeper into the ANXIOUS attachment style...
10:09 10 Question about Healing my Anxious Attachment
10:38 1: What changed when you became more secure?
12:30 2: Does it feel different to be attracted to someone now?
14:40 3: What were the key turning points or breakthroughs in your transition?
19:47 4: What was the biggest barrier or challenge you had to overcome?
23:01 5: What specific actions or strategies did you take to shift from insecure to secure?
25:31 6: Which strategies were most effective?
26:08 7: How did your relationships change?
29:38 8: What mindset or belief shifts happened during your transformation?
30:23 9: How did you cultivate self-regulation and self-soothing?
32:43 10: How do you maintain secure attachment daily now?
34:53 Bonus Question (busting the biggest MYTHS)
DISCLAIMER: I'm not a therapist or doctor. This content is for informational and entertainment purposes only. It's not intended to diagnose, treat, or heal any mental health conditions. This is not meant for situations involving abusive relationships of any kind. Always seek professional advice for personal health concerns.
Remember: Change in your relationship starts with YOU, thought by thought and action by action.
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