The Anxious To Secure PODCAST

99: *3 avoidant* core wounds you NEED to know why he shut downs (it's not personal)


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Have you ever felt confused, frustrated, or even hurt because your partner seems distant, cancels plans, or shuts down emotionally — even when you know they care? 🖤✨

In this episode, we dive into what really drives avoidant behavior. Why do some people pull away the moment things feel too close? Why do they seem to love you but still keep their distance?

You’ll get insights into the hidden fears and early experiences that shape how avoidants handle intimacy, emotions, and closeness.. and how you can respond in ways that stop the cycle of frustration and overthinking.

💎 By the end, you’ll start noticing patterns you never saw before, feel less like you’re doing something “wrong,” and understand how your reactions can either calm or trigger their core fears.

 

CHAPTERS:

00:00 Understanding the Avoidant Attachments Style: Core wounds

02:47 Core wound 01: I am trapped
06:41 Core Wound 02: I am Bad (Defective)
11:29 Core wound 03: I am losing control
15:40 Quick Summary
16:32 Homework for the Anxious Attachment Partner: ✨📝

 

 

🖤 ON SALE: How to Stop OVERTHINKING Your Relationship in 4 Steps

(With Your Avoidant Partner)

https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/overthinkingcourse

 

🖤  ON SALE: How to STOP needing so much reassurance via text

(because safety comes from within, and you chasing or not settling boundary is the thing that give you anxiety, NOT a delayed text.)

https://www.the-marriage-coach.com/textanxiety

 

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Free: Anxious to Secure Checklist

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Free Quiz: Find your top 2 Relationship needs 

(before your subconscious will sabotage you by meeting it in unhealthy ways, through like overthinking, clinging too hard to chasing)

https://themarriagecoach.outgrow.us/needs

 

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